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 No.2

Hey guys. I got absolutely roasted the other day. (Anonymously) due to telling how i was feeling about the 1 on 1 Gumpai server dates. But i just want to reiterate how i feel. Gumpai started doing 1 on 1 private dates in the discord server.. I was so fucking hurt at first. There were other boyfriends who were getting an extremely special experience. Some of them had been in there for mere days.. Others were insanely active members. It just felt lile i was actively being cucked in the server that ive grown to know and love and adore. I cancelled my plans for the night. I sat in a voice chat for like 4 hours just waiting to be picked.. And i never was. Then it was just over.. There was no clarification if they were going to happen again. I just felt it all in my chest and i didnt really know how to deal with it.

But anyways, i know shes only 1 person, but i love her and adore her so much. I just hope i get an opportunity to speak to her like that again. Please bring it back so i can get a date too..

I love you Gumpai.

 No.3

Im not gonna lie to you bro. This is fucking unhinged. You need to get some actual help. And i really, really hope you get it.

 No.4

shell do it again just wait around. She does notice everyone. It was also because the server was just crazy at the time.

 No.5

Short answer is she's overwhelmed

Long answer is that the calls aren't exactly dates and she's not exactly mentally equipped to deal with all the attention that she herself has been getting

Furthermore, it's a free GFE. There's no contract to guarantee that >>>you will be the one who gets attention at any particular time. There's onlyfans whores for that

I don't mean to be rude but this is not a traditional relationship and you need to be open minded about the intricacies and nuances, both those that benefit you and those that don't

 No.7

for what it's worth, you're not the only one to feel that. hobbies to pass the time would be great to start doing, wanting to give your all to someone is always going to get to a point of being draining simply due to outside forces that take away from being able to do that. can try to learn to enjoy an experience without expectations

 No.8

I have made some suggestions in case it happens again that should alleviate how much the community may be stressed or feel their time is being 'wasted' but this really wasn't planned out ahead of time and happened on a whim.
Please be patient with her, that's the main thing she wants in a boyfriend after all.

There's a couple hundred active people in the community discord server per day and she has almost 300 CCV on twitch - everyone getting a turn in a day will run the poor girl ragged and she needs the time to look after herself and do things like stream, eat and have fun. You guys can't be her entire life.
Please do not turn something she enjoyed into something stressful to even consider.

 No.9

One of the problems with some of the replies and things that have been said about this post overall is that it seems like everyone is just ignoring that this is a pretty normal reaction considering everything going on is not a normal thing most people would experience in life. Especially when you take into account that a lot of people may already be coming into this already mentally unwell with gumpai being a reason they may start feeling better. How does someone who may be first experiencing it better deal with it, is kinda just being ignored.

Remember you have your own life outside of this, obviously you can't go back, but cancelling plans wasn't the move, if anything continuing to do things just adds to the list of what can be talked about, so its best to. I'm sure it will happen again and maybe with more of a timeline for events but clearly it can be very overwhelming for one person

 No.23

>essay.txt

 No.78

>>23
>counter-essay.txt, mostly calling you slurs for a demographic you don't even fall under


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